Dishonoring Vows

I appreciate humor as much as the next person and I can definitely relate to not being 100% satisfied by book endings. But how dare you, sir!

I came across a meme (for lack of a better word. I don't know what it's actually called) that was some famous tv show host going on a bout how J.K. Rowling had supposedly said (I've never actually found the interview in which she was supposed to have said this so I have to go with "supposedly")that Harry and Hermione should actually be together. Which, I understand since I've thought that since the beginning. What upset me was his suggestion.

He suggested, no, demanded that another book be written, one in which Harry , after I think it was 10 years, recognizes his true feeling for Hermione , she apparently has always had feelings for him, and they go off together for a night and have an affair.

HOW DARE YOU! "Sir" is too much of a title for you because with a remark like that, you are obviously not a gentleman.

What kind of suggestion is that? What kind of suggestion is it for a husband to abandon his wife and children, even for a night, to break the promises that he made for his marriage in order to satisfy his own personal lusts and vice versa? What kind of twisted suggestion is that?

Part of this suggestion was that in doing so, Harry would "man up." Excuse me, but that is in no way, shape or form any sort of  "manning up." To man up would be if Harry realized that he had these feelings (a little late, don't you think?) and then proceeded to squash them. And why would he do that? Because he would put the needs, especially including the emotional needs, of his family above his own. He would be making a choice to sacrifice his personal desires in favor of preserving his family.

"Manning up" would be for Harry to strengthen his relationship with his wife and to work on loving her more. He would honor her and he would protect her. He would serve her and her would never, ever, do anything to endanger the solid foundation of their marriage. That is "manning up."

What's so important about the fictional life of a fictional character and choices that he didn't actually make? It's a reflection of how our culture and our society thinks. There were people cheering this on and there are people laughing and agreeing with this suggestion. There are people who find it funny. But I cannot. I cannot find the humor in the idea of someone abandoning all of his vows, promises that he swore to honor, to satisfy something so base. Love is grand and good but it is not love that invites you to forsake those you have made promises to.

It was and is not funny to me that someone could think that such an idea was good. It is not. That is simply all there is to it. Breaking promises and dishonoring vows is not to be celebrated and cheered on. It is something that is shameful and that should not be acceptable or encouraged.